Loves, Fears & Desires: A Connection Practice for Couples
This is a communication practice that takes about 10 minutes, and like many of the other practices I offer, simplicity belies the depth.
There are three questions:
- What do you love about me?
- What are you afraid of?
- What do you desire?
You each take turns with the questions. Set a timer for one minute per question.
Person 1 asks the first question: What do you desire? Person 2 speaks their deepest desires. Anything goes here, big visions for the future or small requests for the day-to-day. If they run out of things to say, Person 1 says only, “And what else?” Person 1 only listens: they do not offer solutions, or response, or ideas—they only listen.
After the timer, swap roles, and Person 2 will ask the same question. Then you switch again, and ask the remaining questions.
Reflect with the collective
Members can bring questions, discoveries, and tender edges from each practice into the private community.