Sexual Sophistication

Sexual sophistication is a new framework for understanding yourself and your lovers. This is our Mindful Sex Monthly workshop from January 2026.

My Beloved and I created this framework on our honeymoon a few months ago... we made love, we played in the wind and waves, we got high, and we spent time imagining our sex life as a married couple. We envisioned what might be possible with ourselves and with other lovers. We thought about how we can best understand our needs and desires for ourselves and in each other. And we connected our years of work and practice and play to create this fabulous new body of work under the framework of SEXUAL SOPHISTICATION.

As two middle-aged sexperts deeply immersed in this work (personally and professionally), sexual sophistication seems to include the many facets that make for magnetic lovers and amazing partners: emotional intelligence, sexual mastery, attunement + embodiment, and deliciously practical sexual skills.

In this workshop we’ll explore four pillars of sexual sophistication:

• Embodied consent: How to get clear about what you want with yourself (self-consent and self-honoring—trusting your animal body) and how to give/receive in new ways that make for delicious, crave-worthy sex.
• Co-Creation: Sex is so much more than showing up, getting naked, checking boxes, and creating friction… Within this sophisticated approach, we'll look at sexual play as a co-created experience that you both/all can play a role in manifesting what you want.
• Mindful presence: Sex isn't something you do, it's who you are... so learning how to show up in your fullness and presence is how to create a deeper connection and better sex. It's the power of holding your desire, staying still, and honoring what is alive in the moment—stillness, wildness, connection, pleasure, healing... or something more.
• Sexual tools: Our curated list of foundational sex skills everyone needs... and all the ways you can continue to explore your most sensual self in workshops and sessions with us.
• Our work is rooted in therapy, mindfulness, kink, Tantra, sacred sexuality, and sexual healing. We are a mixed-orientation couple, and we are open and affirming for all sexual, gender, and relational expressions!

Our free Mindful Sex Monthly workshops are free to join. Learn more and register for upcoming events here.

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